The Complete Collegiate Guide to Weddings.

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Ever experienced an awkward encounter at a wedding where you were forced into a conversation with a weird relative or with an aunt you didn’t even know you were related to?

When the sense of awkwardness heightens, you don’t know anyone there and everyone simultaneously gets on their phones just to steer away from it all? No bulletproof plan can save you from the horror that awaits.

I’m not one to judge, I myself, have been part of countless awkward interactions but at some point, you have no choice but to push through it. When you go to a wedding, you’ll meet some interesting people.

Like the aunties and uncles who have no boundaries whatsoever and will bombard you with questions about anything and everything that goes on in your life such as “Boy you got girlfriend ah?” or “What’s your SPM results?”, even if you have already told them before that you graduated 2 years ago.

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Interracial 101: What Not to Say

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Racially ambiguous. Ethnically mysterious. Curiously racialized.

These are the terms used nowadays to refer or explain interracial. To be specific, interracial is a combination of two or more races.

As an interracial myself—Malay mixed with Indian, by the way—I know that navigating through life can be confusing. Life is already difficult on its own, without outside factors contributing in, such as racism. Living as an interracial can also get tiring when these curious non-interracial tend to ask you the same question every single time.

To the non-interracial, I know that meeting an interracial for the first time can be quite an experience and you’d have lots of questions running through your head as your curiosity gets the best of you. It’s totally okay, trust me. And it’s not your fault that you have all these questions. We understand that your questions don’t come from hatred but rather lack of understanding.

But, sometimes, we interracial just get tired of listening to the same question every single time and having to explain it repeatedly.

Take a read at the curiosities that we interracial usually get asked with and hopefully some of them can answer yours.

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Thoughts and Answers on Suicide and Bullying.

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I am sure you all have heard about the TV show ‘13 Reasons Why’, a story that revolves around a girl whom committed suicide. Being bullied was one of the many reasons why she did it.

So, I asked myself, how far can someone go to the point where the victim takes their own life?

“Would everyone’s lives be better off without me?” A question you don’t normally hear first-hand. Sometimes we don’t see it coming like it’s completely out of the norm to hear such things happen. We say things like “Why would they do that to themselves?” or “Don’t they love themselves and the people around them enough?”

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Opinion: Friendship

IMG-20170418-WA0043Friendship plays a huge part in our lives, isn’t it? How huge could it get?

Every single human being needs at least one friend by their side; Nowadays’ generation has become broader that everyone has friends even from overseas. Technology has taken over everything now that we can’t even go a day without talking to at least one person.

Precisely, the actual meaning of friendship is a state of mutual trust and support between allied nations or simply the relationship between friends is called friendship but let’s be practical guys.

What is true friendship anyway? Having someone you’ll greet everyday forcefully, could that be considered as a friendship? NOPE! True friendship has a deep meaning.

Let’s all get sink deeper into this topic since it might be harrowing yet not forgetting that it might as well reveal out the tremendous sides of friendship.

A true friendship is when someone knows you better than yourself and grabs a vital spot in your heart. You clearly wouldn’t doubt yourself when it comes to sharing your personal issues with them, or expecting them to keep something to themselves about you.

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An ice cream date with my best friend

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Money Talks and Mine Keeps Saying Goodbye

 

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Keep track of your expenses!

How many times have you ever had to starve yourself because your bank account balance shows ‘RM3.15’? How many times have you ever had to resort to Maggi cup because of the same reason? How many times have you responded with, “Never mind lah, I’m not hungry” when your friends invited you for lunch?

If your answer is that this has happened more than once, then you should probably give this a read.

Independence is one of the key terms related when you think of college. It is also synonymous with young adults holding a bigger responsibility when it comes to managing your own money—now that mum and dad’s wallet are out of reach.

As a student, your focus is to study and live while you’re young, but if you fail to give enough attention to how you spend your money, you might be facing more difficulties than just worrying about the pile of assignments that just keeps adding on.

Whether it be you never paid that much attention to your monthly grocery expenditure or how much those Starbucks coffee runs cost you, you know you need help with managing money.

By establishing a good finance habit and keeping a finance checklist, you could teach yourself on how to save money because a little planning goes a long way.

If I still haven’t bore you to death, continue reading if you’re interested to know the tips on how to save and manage money as a college student.

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Refresh, Recharge, Reconnect!

Ever had the feeling of being tired after a long class but you can’t go home because you have another class coming up in an hour? Or a quiet place with a chill surrounding as a place to study? A place to hangout with your friends perhaps? Maybe even a place to grab a quick bite before you get to your next class?

Fear no more and head on over to INTI’s very own Refresh, Recharge & Reconnect Room for your daily dose of relaxation. Split into three sections, the Refresh area is where you can fill your empty tummies with delicious patisserie and thirst quenching drinks without burning a hole in your pocket.

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Where the tastiness is made

Opened from 7:30 a.m to 8:00 p.m only on weekdays, the air-conditioned and fully furnished Recharge area is available to be used for you to rest up in their cozy hammocks as well as their comfortable napping couches. Not only will you be able to recharge your energy, you can also bring some of your friends along to chill out.

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But, let’s be honest, you would want to be alone when you’re trying to recharge, am I right?

Here’s a place where you can definitely tag your friends along; the Reconnect area! With the same timing as the Recharge area, it is also an air-conditioned room, furnished with comfy cushions and couches. Definitely a go-to place as a hangout spot.

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Some of you may be thinking, “Why have I never heard of this place before?

Here’s a little background info; the Refresh, Recharge & Reconnect Room used to be an empty blob of space before it was glammed up back in 2016 to become this masterpiece. You guys may have seen some renovation works happening around the area and may be annoyed by it, especially if you had classes in Block G because it was disturbing your studies. Looking at it now, wasn’t it definitely worth all the fuss?

Where is this heaven in INTI, you might ask? It’s located at Level 1 & 2, Block F, which is also known as the Metro Block.

So, why are you still reading this? Go on ahead and check the place out!

Written by Nabilah Rahim

Where Inspiration Came From

 John F. Kennedy once said we must take time to stop and thank the people who made a difference in our life. Why? Because I believe just like how we gain knowledge from books and people, inspiration came from somewhere too. A lot of us grew up by looking up either towards our parents or someone among our family members. But I grew up believing in J.K. Rowling and from then on her works inspired me to the point where she became a motivation for me to keep doing what I love most.

 I’m pretty sure most of you here would be familiar with who J.K. Rowling is. For those who don’t, Rowling is known as the one and only famous author of the best selling series Harry Potter. No! I am not a Harry Potter fan, just another muggle who thinks J.K. Rowling is a pretty kick ass author. Now, why is she an inspiration to me? I’d say she became someone influential to me because of the way she brought herself despite all the ups and downs that she’s gone through.

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 Becoming one of the most best selling author in history isn’t something easy and yes it wasn’t easy for Rowling either. Like any other normal person, Rowling had a pretty simple life with her own fair share of problems. She went through a rough journey and learned to get things done the hard way. Back in her early days while beginning to start writing the Harry Potter book, Rowling had lost her mother after ten years of suffering from a disease known as sclerosis. She never told her mother about the book she was writing and with her passing, this heavily affected Rowling’s writing. Being the strong person she is, Rowling used this as an inspiration for her writing like she channeled her own feelings of loss by writing Harry’s own feelings of loss in greater detail in the first book of the Harry Potter sequel.

 Besides her mother’s passing that had affected Rowling in many ways, she had also gone through a failed marriage with television journalist Jorge Arantes whom she met when she was living in Porto, Portugal. During her marriage, she had been domestically abused and suffered a miscarriage as well. These were part of the rough journey of the famous author had to go through in order to become who she is today.

 Being a single mother with a then dependent infant child wasn’t easy for anybody. Rowling had to juggle between studying, writing, working and nursing. Despite being a strong person this wasn’t easy for her as well. Seven years down the road, Rowling saw herself as a failure with a failed marriage and an unemployed single mother. She was also diagnosed with clinical depression and yet again she took this as an inspiration by turning her illness into one of the characters knows as the “Dementors” introduced in the third book of the Harry Potter sequel. She juggled her time between writing and taking care of her kid. Rowling never gave up and instead worked harder to complete the entire book of Harry Potter.

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 Now, her strong willed attitude wasn’t the only thing that made J.K. Rowling an inspiration to me. Unlike many authors, she has a unique way of imagining things in her head and summing it all up into a story and finally a good book to read anytime, anywhere. The idea of the Harry Potter storyline came to her while she was in a four hour delayed train and once she reached her destination she immediately begin writing. The books she wrote on this helped launched her career in writing and also was turned into a series of movies. However that wasn’t the only thing special about her as Harry Potter isn’t the only thing that made her career shine under the limelight. J.K Rowling took on a pseudonym and wrote a new genre of crime book under the name of Robert Galbraith. This book also became a bestseller and spawned two more sequels. It was only somewhere between the 2nd book, that it was revealed i.e. leaked out that Robert Galbraith was actually J.K Rowling.

 Despite all the bitter memories, Rowling still continued writing her book and is now a bestselling author with over 450 million copies of book sold worldwide. I guess by this we all can agree on what an amazing person she is. Writing has always been a passion for me too and learning about the way JK composed her stories and dedicated herself to her work taught me many things about being a writer and in life generally. She made me realize that in life there is always gonna be a curve ball coming your way and dodging it is not always gonna be the best solution. Instead you take the hit and you suck it all up and you keep moving.

Picture1 I learned through Rowling’s journey that no matter how bad a situation gets, behind every dark cloud there’s a rainbow. This being said, Rowling has not only inspired me to become a journalist but to also keep doing the things I love even if times may seem hard because sometimes you’ve got to work hard for something that makes you happy.

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Eating Disorder?

WHAT EATING DISORDER LOOKS LIKE.

 

5:00 a.m. – Wake up with massive tummy ache.

5:30 a.m. –Morning jog.

7:00 a.m. –Gets ready for college.

8:30 a.m. – Contemplates for breakfast but skips and leaves for college instead.

9:00 a.m. – Arrive college and go to class, walking past by yummy-smelling café.

9:00 a.m. to 2:00 p.m. – Busies self with college.

2:00 p.m. – Get home from college, shower and have lunch (Which usually consists of a sandwich).

3:00 p.m. to 5:00 p.m. – Busies self with assignments.

5:00 p.m. – Self workout.

6:00 p.m. – Afternoon jog.

7:00 p.m. – Gets ready for dinner (Which usually is to count how much I can eat).

8:00 p.m. – Try to avoid dinner.

10:00 p.m. – Weighs self before going to sleep, with that same massive tummy ache.

And repeat.

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This is the daily routine of a person with eating disorder, in which it usually consists of avoiding the consumption of food, doing a lot of exercises and basically making sure you don’t gain any more weight than what you already have.

Dealing with eating disorder isn’t as easy as it looks. As much as you want to try and avoid yourselves from eating, some of those days, you will give in and consume something. What sucks though is that after you do, you feel insanely guilty to the point where you promise yourself that you won’t consume more food than you’re supposed to for the rest of week.

Dealing with eating disorder is when you keep weighing yourself every morning when you wake up and every night before you sleep. You tend to keep count how much you lost and how much you gain. That disappointment you get when you see that you don’t lose much or you gained. That disappointment that drives you to reducing more food than you already have. Which is unhealthy. But you do it anyways.

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Dealing with eating disorder is whenever you see yourself in the mirror and you feel extremely unsatisfied. Every time you want to buy new clothes, you think twice. Because you feel like those clothes doesn’t deserve to be worn on your body. And it’s better to just cover everything up. You feel haven’t done enough to gain your ideal body. Your ideal weight. Even if others tell you that you look fine, you can’t help but think that they’re lying. They’re your friends, they’re supposed to tell you that. You try so hard to achieve that ideal weight and body that you see on social media, random people on the street, or even your friends. Those bodies that you envy.

Dealing with eating disorder is lying to your friends and families. You say that you’re fine. But you’re not. You’re always thinking that people are always judging you based on how you look. You’re always insecure no matter how good people say you look. You’re always trying to make yourself better even if that means taking the extra risk. You’re always telling them that you’ve ate, even when you haven’t. So that they wouldn’t worry too much about you. So that you won’t have to go through that same lecture about proper self-care. You lie to them so much that it feels completely natural. Besides, what they don’t know won’t hurt them, right?

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Dealing with eating disorder is having that extra stress. That bipolar mood swings. You’re not only carrying that extra burden of stopping yourself from consuming too much calories, but there’s also that guilt of lying to the ones you love. Those depressed moments when you realise you haven’t lost much but gained. People think you just broke up with your significant other, but really, it’s all because you ate. You get tired easily from pretending that you’re okay, sometimes even the simplest things can tick you off. Then, you try so hard not to let it bother you, cause it’s not their fault. It’s yours.

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Above all though, eating disorder is REAL. This isn’t about teaching you how to overcome eating disorder. It’s not about how to identify if someone is suffering from eating disorder. It’s just to show you that eating disorder is real. It’s happening and it could be happening to someone close to you. It’s not something made up by people just so they could get attention. It’s not a trend for people to pick up just because it looks like ‘an easy disorder to achieve’. People should just be aware that mental illnesses actually exists. Not just eating disorder. Depression, bipolar, social anxiety, etc. These are all real illnesses and people are actually suffering from it.

Don’t cast them away. Don’t insult or tease them. Don’t take their illnesses lightly.

These people need help and just know that you can, if you actually take caution and be aware.

 

Siti Nabilah 😀

Student Ink Writer

Wild Flowers

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Poisoned by this so called love
When touched
I turn away;
Hiding from this dirty creatures
Fearing i would be plucked once again
Only to be ruinedI bloom during sunrise
And when the moon comes out to play
I fade away
Knowing here they come again
Destroying all in their way

I hide myself within the shrubs
Surrounding myself with prickly thorns
Untouchable;
For when they come for me
I shall not be plucked anymore.

Danita 😀

Student Ink Writer

IS FRIENDSHIP REALLY IMPORTANT?

I’m sure that everyone has friends; regardless they’re the same gender or from your childhood, high school, through gaming, or even in college. You may have many friends or some of you may say “nah…just 2 to 3 close friends is enough for me”. It’s fine.

We all know how friendship is important and how friends become a significant part of our lives. They make our lives interesting and wonderful. Beyond doubt, one of the major benefits of having friends is that they improve our lives. They help us develop a sense of sharing be it tangible things or just inspirational or motivational words of wisdom and usually a friend can be casual, close, best or a role model for most of us. Some friends may even be closer to you when compared to some of the others, for example like a best friend or a motivator. Friends often give you a shoulder to cry on when you need emotional support.

Without friends, life can be boring as they contribute to one’s happiness in a fulfilling way. Friendships can have major impact on your well-being since they heighten your happiness, reduce the stress and perk up your self-worth. Just like your family, friends do have roles and responsibilities in your life’s journey. In our everyday life, we need a friend to lean on, to grieve with us, to listen to us, and to motivate us. In every aspect it is a highly motivating thing to know that there are a few people who will always love you and believe in you.

So, are friends really important?

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As humans we want to connect with others to feel loved and to thrive in life. It is something to do with the strong emotional and psychological need that makes us feel connected or attached to some other like-minded people. Friends whether they are around the corner or in another part of the country they provide comfort and support. They make you feel connected by giving you a profound sense of identity and belonging.

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Boost of Self – Confidence?

All of us must have faced problems with self-esteem at certain times in our lives. And friends do motivate and help us to develop our sense of self-worth. Everybody wants undue attention and love, and having someone in your life, who considers your opinion on various aspects of things and values your company can make you feel wanted. This can boost your self-esteem. Friends give you the confidence to uphold your sense of identity and self-respect.

Never Lonely

What are the benefits of friends? To be your partner in crime or someone you can share your daily life or gossips with.

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Life without any friends can make your sojourns lonely. When you have friends you are never lonely. Hanging out with friends is a great way to overcome loneliness. Even if some of us may not be more social than others we always wish for personal interactions with others at certain times. Friends supply us the anti-lonesome remedy by giving us happy ways to fight the blues.

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Personal Growth

Having many friends means sharing different kinds of experiences. Most of the times we are so stuck in our own daily routines that it is nice to hear about other people’s activities. You will get a chance to know about new things and to learn about things that you haven’t done before when you share experiences. The things that they share with us can open our eyes to new ideas and also provide us greater chances of changing ourselves for the better.

 

Unlimited Laughter, Adventure And Fun

Friends are the open and free access to ultimate laughs and fun times. There is no need of topics to laugh on. They can make us roll on the floor laughing even without any funny reason. It’s true to say when a group of friends are together, the comic level is higher than any comedy show! Moreover, friends encourage us to try things we can never imagine doing. All of them may not be positive, but they sure are adventurous. The memories of those moments are the factors that make life exciting and joyous. Without friends, life would be unimaginably boring.

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Hence we should never miss the chances to appreciate our friends for their time, care, love and simply friendship. Without them, our lives wouldn’t be complete. Learn to cherish those happy moments and all the fun, bittersweet memories. So let’s go tell them how much we love them! And here’s one of my favourite quotes. Have a great day eeryone!

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Jasmyne 😀                                                                                                                                  Student Ink Writer

 

Finding Hope

 

I’ve always viewed life from the side lines,

Just watching it passing me by,

In the past I was afraid to just let go,

And too tired to try.

 

I’ve envied the people around me,

So invested in living each day,

While I spent my time hiding from the world,

And searching for ways to escape.

 

For most of my life, I truly believed,

I was here to help somebody else,

But now it’s so clear it was just an excuse.

To avoid living life for myself.

 

It’s sad that our lives and the pain we endure,

Can weaken our strength to move on,

But if we get lost in the scars of our past,

Without knowing our lives will be gone.

 

Its true people are disappointing,

They can turn in the blink of an eye,

But we can’t avoid hurting each other,

When we all want a chance at this life.

 

But there’s something I’ve learned through the wisdom of age,

A truth about all of our lives,

And that is no matter what path we take,

In the end, we just want to survive.

 

So the time has now come to conquer my fears,

To stand up and face a new day,

Let the hurts of my past wash away with my tears,

And stop letting my life slip away.

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Jasmyne 😀

Student Ink IICS Writer

Finding Hope

 

I’ve always viewed life from the side lines,

Just watching it passing me by,

In the past I was afraid to just let go,

And too tired to try.

 

I’ve envied the people around me,

So invested in living each day,

While I spent my time hiding from the world,

And searching for ways to escape.

 

For most of my life, I truly believed,

I was here to help somebody else,

But now it’s so clear it was just an excuse.

To avoid living life for myself.

 

It’s sad that our lives and the pain we endure,

Can weaken our strength to move on,

But if we get lost in the scars of our past,

Without knowing our lives will be gone.

 

Its true people are disappointing,

They can turn in the blink of an eye,

But we can’t avoid hurting each other,

When we all want a chance at this life.

 

But there’s something I’ve learned through the wisdom of age,

A truth about all of our lives,

And that is no matter what path we take,

In the end, we just want to survive.

 

So the time has now come to conquer my fears,

To stand up and face a new day,

Let the hurts of my past wash away with my tears,

And stop letting my life slip away.

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Jasmyne

Student Ink IICS Writer

Stay Local? Or Is It Greener on The Other Side?

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Admit it; before you decide on the next phase of your life, this is one of the main questions that you’ve asked yourself repeatedly throughout the process. You’ve weighed out the pros and cons, you’ve seek for advice from family members, teachers/lecturers, and even educational counselors. But somehow, you’re still unable to figure out the perfect choice for your own future.

Just like coins, there’s going to be two sides in everything, including this matter. It’s true, studying local does have a lot of pros rather than cons. But, if you look at the future benefits that studying abroad will give to you in the long run, it’s going to overpower most of the cons.

Not sure what these benefits are? Keep on reading!

  1. Explore

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One of the biggest reasons why studying abroad is beneficial for us is because of the opportunity of getting to see the world. You’ll be stepped out of your comfort zone and enter a brand-new country. Imagine all the new culture you’re going to learn and all the new interesting people that you’re going to meet. You’ll also be able to gain more knowledge on these countries rather than just knowing about it through textbooks or through the articles you read.

Also, by studying abroad, you’re not tied to just that one state you’re studying at. Imagine yourself studying at one of the best universities in California. You won’t just be limited to exploring California but on your semester breaks, you could go and get yourself an adventure at neighbouring states such as Mexico or Texas or even Colorado.

How this is going to benefit you in the long run other than gaining yourself all these new memories and adventures? Well, that’s exactly what most employers look for. The fact that you’ve gotten all these experiences and knowledge from your adventures will not only be beneficial for your own personal uses but also for the company, because it shows that you’ve got a sense of maturity, discipline and can be reliable.

2. New Everything

The possibilities are that when you decide to study abroad, it’s the first time you’ll be leaving your home country. So, when you arrive at this new country that you’ve never been in, you’re definitely going to be amazed with all these new cultures, new food, new customs, new traditions, and even new social environment. Everything is going new for you.
From being in these new country, having these new friends and gaining all these new knowledge as well as having a better understanding and insight on another’s culture and religion, you’ll have a better appreciation for other cultures as well as your own. This will also give you an opportunity to see life in a different light.
This can be beneficial in the long run in terms of when you get a job and you’ll be given a task that includes international relations. Instead of just relying heavily on research that you’ve done online, the fact that you’ve experienced it will be a useful tool and can be a big help.

3. Upgrade Language Skills

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 Chances are if you study overseas, one of the major benefits is that you’ll be able to study a foreign language. Studying abroad gives you the opportunity to be exposed to these new knowledge.

Imagine studying somewhere in the UK, which happens to be an English-speaking country. Your only option is to just speak in English. No matter how bad you think your English is, being in this foreign country can really help to improve your language skills over the year. And just because you’re studying in an English-speaking based country, does not mean you won’t be able to pick up other languages as well. Chances are you’ll meet fellow international students, you can gain those other language skills from these new friends.

Again, same situation, when you get to the working world and is given the task where international relation is involved, being able to speak multiple language is a huge plus for you and your company.

4. Networking

 Picture4No matter where you go, you’re always going to meet new people. Studying in a university will you expose to people from various countries which holds various cultures. Studying abroad will increase the chances of meeting more international people. And from there, you can start to build your social network and gain all these new friends, who could turn out to be helpful in the future.

Words are that the coursework for the universities abroad are lighter than the coursework for the universities in Asia. Take the extra time off to go and intern at a company, get a part-time job, or do some volunteer work. These methods can help you to gain professional connections.

Coming back to your home country with a whole lot of connections is definitely going to be beneficial. Having all these connections will help you once you have a job later on. You never know if that girl you worked part-time with now hold a high-ranked position in a muti-billionaire company.

 

There’s a lot more benefits to it rather than just these four. But at the end of the day, it all comes down to you whether you want to continue abroad or stay local. If you’re still having difficulties in making decisions, don’t hesitate to ask your educational counsellor or even just an opinion from a friend.

 

Written By,

Siti Nabilah, Student Ink INTI.